Summary of Getting the Love You Want Book by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D.

Change is the only constant thing in life.

This logic applies to marriage and relationships too. Romance has undergone many changes globally, and more to come as society advances. For instance, in the past, the average marriageable age for men ranged between twenty-three to twenty-four years and twenty to twenty-one years for women. However, recently, people starting around the ages of twenty to over twenty-five are in school or at work. Young people hardly think of getting married and starting a family at twenty. Another factor triggering a change in relationships is the fact that there are so many failed marriages in society which makes most young people scared.

But every shift in society comes with its upsides and downsides, some benefit and some victimized. Social media is a good example. It undoubtedly helps many couples stay in touch and grow their friendship — especially those in long-distance relationships. At the same time, more people rely on the internet for excitement instead of relating with their fellow humans, placing a strain on many marriages.

We must realize that in relationships and marriages, what everyone earnestly desires is to find a love that is true and lasts. Humans innately need to unite with and stay connected to someone they consider special. Thankfully, it’s possible to build a relationship that stands the test of time no matter what has happened in your past or how the world has changed.

The pages you’re about to read will expose you to ways you can keep your relationship pleasurable. You’ll also learn one wonderful solution to the problems of intimacy, marriages, and relationships in general: Imago Therapy, which we’ll start talking about in the next chapter.

Did you know? A 2016 survey by mobile analytics software Flurry shows that a lot of people in the U.S spend at least five hours a day on their smart devices and laptops.