13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do

15-minute summary of Amy Morin's bestseller

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Chapter One: What is mental strength?

We all possess some degree of mental strength, but there is always room for improvement. People aren’t just categorized into mentally strong and mentally weak. Developing mental strength is about your ability to regulate your emotions, manage your thoughts, and behave in a positive manner. Mental strength comes easily to some people as they are generally more predisposed to physical strength than others, but it doesn’t mean others can’t have such strength as well, you just have to develop and maintain it. It makes you resistant to stress and improves your contentment with life. It also enhances and increases your performance in whatever goal you choose.

Keep reading to find out the 13 things mentally strong people don’t do. 

Chapter Two: Mentally strong people don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves

Sometimes as humans, something tragic and irreversible happens to us but that is no excuse to give up. 

Everyone experiences pain and sorrow in life. 

And although sadness is a normal and healthy emotion, dwelling on your sorrow or misfortune is self-destructive. Whatever the problem is, always know that there is a light at the end of every dark tunnel. It is good to remember that sadness is a part of life and grief is okay, but thinking other people have it better is unhealthy.

Indulging in self-pity hinders living a full life in the following ways:

  • It is a waste of time. Feeling sorry for yourself requires a lot of mental energy and actually does nothing to change the situation. 
  • It leads to more negative emotions. Once you allow it to hold, self-pity will ignite a flurry of other negative emotions like loneliness and resentment. 
  • It can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. When you feel sorry for yourself, you’re unlikely to perform at your best. And as a result, you may experience more problems and increased failures.
  • It prevents you from dealing with other emotions. Self-pity can stall your progress from healing and moving forward as it keeps the focus on why things should be different rather than accepting the situation for what it is.


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